How do you feel when you say “I’m going to try”?
If you pay attention, you may notice that it makes you feel weak, like you’ve given up before you’ve begun.
It sounds like a virtuous statement – it’s as if you’re saying ‘I have identified that I want to change something and I am going to try to do it’.
As if your heart is in the right place.
But you know it isn’t, because of that weak feeling that you get.
That’s always your clue that you’re thinking something that won’t get you what you want – if it makes you feel weak or hopeless.
I recommend that if you want to change something, you skip the TRY word, and simply say “I am going to do it”.
Here’s why – we always prove our thoughts true.
Whatever you say you are going to do, you will do that.
So if you’re going to try to give up sugar, your result will be that you keep trying to give up sugar.
You may give it up for a day or two, and then you’ll feel tempted, and you’ll eat some, and then you’ll resist again, and on and on.
Yep. You’re trying, that’s for sure.
Problem is, you aren’t succeeding.
You’re never going to succeed until you DECIDE to succeed.
To DO it. Not to try do it.
You don’t have to change, but if you want to, then really commit.
Pick one thing at a time,
Understand that you can do whatever you believe you will do,
And decide to do it.
If the best you can offer yourself is “I’ll try”,
I recommend you skip that goal altogether or hire a coach,
Because that tells me that you don’t believe you will succeed,
And, in the same way that we will do whatever we truly believe we can,
if we want to,
The opposite is equally true – no matter how much we want to,
we won’t achieve it if we don’t believe we can.
And there’s nothing more disheartening than really wanting it, trying, and failing. And not understanding that it was simply your thinking that caused the failure.