It makes total sense that we constantly think thoughts we were told when we were young - they’re our very first program and the only way we get to update it is if we meet our younger self with love and compassion. That’s how we will know what needs updating.We’ll never be able to see it or do it if we’re ignoring/beating it up.

Best way to deal with our ‘scared brain’ is to treat it with reassurance and love -it’s the only language it understands 

Coddling myself is me wrapping myself in a blanket on the couch and making myself tea. Gentle is me reaching out my hand and telling myself that I know I don’t want to do it and we’re going to do it anyway.

We are the only ones who get to decide the status of our relationships with other people. 

We don’t need a ‘just’ reason to end a relationship - wanting to is a good enough reason.

My client’s model about me is none of my business

Can we love the parts of our people that we wish weren’t there as much as the parts we want? That is amazing work and the benefit is we will start to do that for ourselves as well. 

We can focus on what we did get done, or what we didn’t. The former will create more accomplishment for us.