So what if you will never have this food again?
My client is on vacation And she’s eating more than her body needs. She keeps thinking “I’ll never have this dessert again.” Which is probably true. She noticed that this fact has no effect on her children. Their attitude is “there’s always another dessert” Which is probably true too. This woman is very smart. She […]
How do you feel when someone flirts with you?
Or How comfortable are you with your sexuality? This is important because it may impact whether you’ll lose weight and, more importantly, whether you’ll maintain that weight loss or regain it. Today I realized how much I’ve changed. Rewind ten years. I was in a thin phase. In the supermarket, dairy counter. A muscly young […]
Want to share some secrets?
A client told me that she thinks I’m so brave to put myself out there in my blogs. I wasn’t always so brave about self-exposure. I used to think secrets were for keeping. Especially the ones that made me feel embarrassed or weak. Or fat. Yep. Keeping secrets can definitely make us fat. They weigh […]
Want to know the best weight loss secret in the universe?
Stay Don’t leave Stay Don’t hide Stay No matter what you’re eating Stay present No matter how much you’re eating Be there with you Even if you’re breaking a promise you made yesterday Stay with yourself Even if you wish you were someone different Don’t leave. During my years of coaching and being coached I […]
Why must you give that up in order to be thin?
I went to an Indian restaurant with my oldest daughter last night. We both love Indian food, and often go just the two of us. We love the communal aspect of the meal, and enjoy the same dishes. We usually order samosas, naan bread, and two or three vegetarian dishes with rice. This is way […]
Can you find the pause?
Can you find the pause between stimulus and response*? It’s important. Because this is what makes us human. Remember Pavlov? He convinced many psychologists that we go straight from stimulus to response. As in see food –> eat it get yelled at –> yell back. I’m convinced that between the stimulus and response There is […]
How do you make sure you stick with your new exercise plan?
Laura* comes to hot yoga every day. Possibly twice a day – she’s there whichever class I go to. She’s out of shape and overweight. She doesn’t look like someone who exercises strenuously every day. And she doesn’t. Exercise strenuously. She spends most of the class on her mat Lying flat on her back in […]
Who knew wobbling could feel so POWERFUL?
(this post is a follow up to my previous post “Where have my genius skills gone?” Thanks to all of you who emailed to ask how I was doing.) I made an amazing discovery this week: There are many many steps and adjustments between failing and mastery. It happened during hot yoga of course (my […]
How can you be so happy all the time?
“Mommy, how can you be so happy all the time?” My seven year old asked me tonight. We’d been driving for about twelve hours home from our winter vacation in Florida (heavenly – thanks for asking). Her question surprised me. I hadn’t even thought about it. I was really happy. Having the best day. My […]
What’s your lie?
In coaching we often ask “what’s your why?” to uncover the reason for our behaviour. Lately, I’ve been experimenting with “what’s your lie?” I find that if we begin by identifying the lies we tell ourselves right off the bat things just open up and take off from there. I asked the “Seasonalites” (the brave […]