Please love yourself today, no matter what.

I went swimsuit shopping yesterday. At my thinnest, I don’t look good in a swimsuit. And I’m not at my thinnest right now. So there I was, me and me, in a tiny change room with a full length mirror, lots of swimsuits, my big wobbly legs and my dimply sticky-outy butt. And I didn’t […]

Can you nudge against the sound? Of your own thoughts?

My inspiring NIA teacher asked this during our class this morning. What a great question. She was referring to the sound of the mesmerizing band that plays during our class. What a great question, I thought, thinking of my thoughts. Can you nudge against the sound of your own thoughts? Can you get a little closer and really hear […]

Can’t you just eat those latkas another day?

Chanukah. Latkas. Lacy crispy confections of shredded potatoes and onions. Hot off the griddle. Just the right amount of oily, crispy, and then mushy inside. Jews traditionally eat latkas on Chanukah, which started Saturday night, and will end this Sunday. On Saturday night we had a big Chanukah party. I mixed a triple batch of […]

Got any rules you want to deconstruct today?

I went shopping for a bikini yesterday. Honestly. I never thought that would happen in this lifetime. It started with my upper arms. I had a rule that I couldn’t wear sleeveless tops because my upper arms were fat and soft. But summer is short here in Toronto, and I always yearned to wear tank […]

How long until you choose to feel better?

I turned the corner, and a woman opened her window and said “I love you”. Life just keeps getting better, I thought. She went on to say that she hurt her leg during power yoga, and instead of quitting, she remembered a blog post I had written about falling and continuing to run instead of […]

What to do with the pain?

Sadness. Loss. Fear . Regret. Worry. Crises rocking my world. First, I slept I ate I hid. For 2 days. It felt horrible. Like I was congesting the pain, Making it thick and doughy and sticky. I felt thick and doughy and congested. I wanted a different way. I know a different way. Coach a […]

So what if you will never have this food again?

My client is on vacation And she’s eating more than her body needs. She keeps thinking “I’ll never have this dessert again.” Which is probably true. She noticed that this fact has no effect on her children. Their attitude is “there’s always another dessert” Which is probably true too. This woman is very smart. She […]

How do you feel when someone flirts with you?

Or How comfortable are you with your sexuality? This is important because it may impact whether you’ll lose weight and, more importantly, whether you’ll maintain that weight loss or regain it. Today I realized how much I’ve changed. Rewind ten years. I was in a thin phase. In the supermarket, dairy counter. A muscly young […]

Want to know the best weight loss secret in the universe?

Stay Don’t leave Stay Don’t hide Stay No matter what you’re eating Stay present No matter how much you’re eating Be there with you Even if you’re breaking a promise you made yesterday Stay with yourself Even if you wish you were someone different Don’t leave. During my years of coaching and being coached I […]

Got any stories that have outlived their ‘best by ‘ date?

YOU: Do you like your gym? ME: The best part of it is that it’s 2 minutes away. I can leave my house at 9.20 for a 9.30 class. If it was 5 minutes further, I just wouldn’t get there. I totally believed this story. And it kept me at a gym I really didn’t […]