Can you find the pause?
Can you find the pause between stimulus and response*? It’s important. Because this is what makes us human. Remember Pavlov? He convinced many psychologists that we go straight from stimulus to response. As in see food –> eat it get yelled at –> yell back. I’m convinced that between the stimulus and response There is […]
How do you make sure you stick with your new exercise plan?
Laura* comes to hot yoga every day. Possibly twice a day – she’s there whichever class I go to. She’s out of shape and overweight. She doesn’t look like someone who exercises strenuously every day. And she doesn’t. Exercise strenuously. She spends most of the class on her mat Lying flat on her back in […]
Who knew wobbling could feel so POWERFUL?
(this post is a follow up to my previous post “Where have my genius skills gone?” Thanks to all of you who emailed to ask how I was doing.) I made an amazing discovery this week: There are many many steps and adjustments between failing and mastery. It happened during hot yoga of course (my […]
How can you be so happy all the time?
“Mommy, how can you be so happy all the time?” My seven year old asked me tonight. We’d been driving for about twelve hours home from our winter vacation in Florida (heavenly – thanks for asking). Her question surprised me. I hadn’t even thought about it. I was really happy. Having the best day. My […]
What’s your lie?
In coaching we often ask “what’s your why?” to uncover the reason for our behaviour. Lately, I’ve been experimenting with “what’s your lie?” I find that if we begin by identifying the lies we tell ourselves right off the bat things just open up and take off from there. I asked the “Seasonalites” (the brave […]
Why do you do it if you hate doing it?
“I hate interrupting my work that I love to drive an hour to get my kids from school. So I eat all the way there and back” Emotion as she’s telling me this. Frustration, struggle. So don’t go, I said. But I want to go. I love talking to them and catching up with them. […]
What can you do if you can’t make yourself feel better?
A woman I love dearly is badly burned. She was sleeping two nights ago and was woken, on fire. The extent of her burns is not yet established, but it’s not good. Her partner is dead. She is one of the strongest, bravest women I know. Tiny, gorgeous, energetic. She is the backbone of her […]
Is there ANYTHING you can’t decide to feel better about?
Found out last week that I have lice. First, they were found on two of my daughters at school. Then, Lina from Lice Squad came to check and de-lice the family. It’s me and the two youngest. Ugh. The nurse, who knows nothing about life coaching or thought work said “You’re a good mommy” huh? […]
Do you believe it’s easy to lose weight?
I do. I decided to believe that this morning. I gained a few pounds over the last month. I could come up with some valid excuses tons of house guests no routine a million kids to feed. But I know these are all lies. I know it takes no time at all to pay attention […]
Are you living your priorities?
I was late for an important Board meeting tonight. Fifteen minutes. That’s how long it takes me to make a delicious salad for dinner. Busy day. No time to prepare food. Fed the kids. Time to go. But I hadn’t eaten my dinner. So… I walked into the meeting fifteen minutes late. Luscious salad in […]